Questions to ask someone before you start dating
Teenager, wait to date until it brings more glory to God in your life to date than to remain single.Many of my patients have asked me when it is appropriate for them to find out crucial information about someone they are thinking of continuing to date.They want to know early on if they should invest the time and energy that a quality relationship requires.My answer most often is: “When you are not yet invested in the outcome.” That means as early in a new relationship as you can.As teenagers who follow Christ, we shouldn’t want to conform or cave to culture’s standards for relationships. If you watch two people date in a movie, it usually goes like this: The couple meets and there are intense and immediate sparks of attraction. It’s all been killed by a culture of convenience and speed.
Before you consider engaging your heart in a romantic relationship, are you confident in your identity as a child of God?Wait to date until he brings you a person who will aid your sanctification and chase Christlikeness with you.Wait to date until you’re satisfied in Christ, when you’re free from expectation and pressure, when you’re supported by a gospel community, and when you’re committed to a long-term, lasting relationship.It would have been outright, self-focused rebellion. We submit our desires, temptations, timing, preferences, and bodies to Christ, and sacrifice ourselves for the holiness and good of another person.So wait to date until you can joyfully submit every part of your relationship to God’s loving authority.